Friday, 9 August 2013

Most successful relationships begin with a friendship

Have you ever been without friends? God forbid that it should happen! Is that the thought crossing your mind now?

But at times it does come about. Sometimes we find ourselves friendless and without an ally. Things happen that you can't confide in your friends. No one seems to understand what you're going through and there isn't anyone you can open your heart and share your troubles with.

At that time someone who can offer a shoulder to lean on, who extends a helping hand, is someone whose friendship one doesn't want to let go.
Friendship is a pillar we can lean on in our troubled times. Walking alone on a rocky path is so much more difficult than when your hand is held in a warm clasp.  
And that support, companionship, call it what you will, becomes a lasting relationship. Most of the time there has to be friendship before there is love.

Do you agree? Cast a look around you and then see if it is true or not?
Speaking for myself, I believe friendship and support are an integral part of a sound relationship. Standing by your loved one when things are tough for them. That isn't something everyone can do. But when it is done, it is a priceless beautiful thing to remember.

I often undertake more than I can handle on my plate. Like writing for instance. Handling it along with a day job isn't the brightest idea I had but my husband's support has counted a lot during this time. Especially his two special words. Not 'love you' if that's what you romantic types are thinking, but 'take out'. Yes, *sigh* two magical words in any woman's dictionary when you are feeling allergic to kitchen. *grin*
If you aren’t friends, what would you talk about and share and discuss. Even if it’s a healthy differing in views, a partnership to let the other one air their views and be themselves cannot but endure. This helps if you have known each other a long time. Cricketer marriages seem to support this. Our captain MS Dhoni and his wife Sakshi were childhood friends, and so were R Ashwin and wife Priti. Who else can you think of? J

It all begins with one step forward.
In my book, the heroine is in a similar crisis to the aforementioned situation. She's feeling hurt by her broken engagement but how can she show her hurt to her family? They will worry too much for her. Yet she cannot help her anger and angst. At this time, Zaheer steps up and offers her his help. She catches onto it like it's a lifeline. From that moment on, things begin.

How important has friendship been in your life? Has it ever led to love? Come on now. Share. :)
Wishing you wonderful friendships!




  1. Very interesting...enjoyed reading this! :)

  2. Great post, Ruchi. Friendship pays a long way in any relationship to hold long. For there to be love, there has to be understanding and friendship and that's when we say love braves it all. But it isn't just love, it is the underlying friendship and understanding that helps love brave it all.