Friday, 9 August 2013

Most successful relationships begin with a friendship

Have you ever been without friends? God forbid that it should happen! Is that the thought crossing your mind now?

But at times it does come about. Sometimes we find ourselves friendless and without an ally. Things happen that you can't confide in your friends. No one seems to understand what you're going through and there isn't anyone you can open your heart and share your troubles with.

At that time someone who can offer a shoulder to lean on, who extends a helping hand, is someone whose friendship one doesn't want to let go.
Friendship is a pillar we can lean on in our troubled times. Walking alone on a rocky path is so much more difficult than when your hand is held in a warm clasp.  
And that support, companionship, call it what you will, becomes a lasting relationship. Most of the time there has to be friendship before there is love.

Do you agree? Cast a look around you and then see if it is true or not?
Speaking for myself, I believe friendship and support are an integral part of a sound relationship. Standing by your loved one when things are tough for them. That isn't something everyone can do. But when it is done, it is a priceless beautiful thing to remember.

I often undertake more than I can handle on my plate. Like writing for instance. Handling it along with a day job isn't the brightest idea I had but my husband's support has counted a lot during this time. Especially his two special words. Not 'love you' if that's what you romantic types are thinking, but 'take out'. Yes, *sigh* two magical words in any woman's dictionary when you are feeling allergic to kitchen. *grin*
If you aren’t friends, what would you talk about and share and discuss. Even if it’s a healthy differing in views, a partnership to let the other one air their views and be themselves cannot but endure. This helps if you have known each other a long time. Cricketer marriages seem to support this. Our captain MS Dhoni and his wife Sakshi were childhood friends, and so were R Ashwin and wife Priti. Who else can you think of? J

It all begins with one step forward.
In my book, the heroine is in a similar crisis to the aforementioned situation. She's feeling hurt by her broken engagement but how can she show her hurt to her family? They will worry too much for her. Yet she cannot help her anger and angst. At this time, Zaheer steps up and offers her his help. She catches onto it like it's a lifeline. From that moment on, things begin.

How important has friendship been in your life? Has it ever led to love? Come on now. Share. :)
Wishing you wonderful friendships!



Tuesday, 6 August 2013

Unexpected Love Encounters

Hi everyone,

I came across this very cute saying...
The best relationships usually begin unexpectedly

Do you believe in this? And if you don’t...have you heard about the couple who met through Facebook because they have the same name? Yes, really.
Isn’t it amazing when things happen at a totally unexpected place and time, yet turn out to be so right? We experience life in different ways, and store away those experiences, good and bad, some of which can help us in future, while others we just want to get rid of in our memory. But sometimes something happens out of the ordinary, snaring us, catching hold of our senses and rooting our feet to the floor. That one moment stands out among all others. Yes, the moment of being in love.

Falling in love is magical and unpredictable. Maybe that's the part of being magical, that you can't predict with whom or where or when you'll fall in love. Or even why. Because isn't it true sometimes we really can't pinpoint what draws us to a person. Is it his or her smile or when they unexpectedly make us laugh or the way that special person can make you feel your worries weigh less than cotton candy?
I often think of these variables which make no logic. That's why we say we love with not our brain but our heart. Being a medical person I can tell you the emotional part is actually not under control of your thinking part because it has very little neuronal connections with the logically thinking areas of our cerebrum. Yet the control exerted by this part is tremendous.

Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.
-          Lao Tzu

Of course, love occurs between people who are totally different and at unexpected places.  That’s when we get the ‘huh?’ moment. When we hear of unlikely couples pairing up. A celebrity marrying a commoner is certain to get our eyebrows raised as is a Bollywood actor marrying a doctor.

The first stab of love is like a sunset, a blaze of colour...”
Anna Godbersen

As said above, like the splashing of dispersing colours in the sky, love overtakes all and listens to no resistance.
I quite appreciate that as I have a husband who is very different in his thinking - sometimes diagonally so - from me!  In fact the first time we met, I had hot coffee while he took a cold cola. So that seems to set the trend for us of different tastes and different outlooks. Years later, we still sit together and he sips cold coffee while I enjoy hot tea!

So do you agree that two people can be very different and still fall in love? That love can pounce on you coming out of the hiding in unexpected places?
Take the hero and heroine of my debut book, Bollywood FiancĂ© For A Day, for instance. Zaheer is a renowned Bollywood actor. He’s used to the glamorous, shiny tinsel world. Vishakha is a dedicated doctor who hardly has time off to enjoy life.
Normally their paths wouldn’t ever cross.

But Vishakha has entered and won a contest. The prize is a date with Zaheer.
Different personalities. Meeting unconventionally. Then finding there was something irresistible keeping them together despite everything that shouldn't.
What can these two find in common? What do you think?
Do share if you believe love can happen unexpectedly. If that kind of love can be worth pursuing?

Eager to hear your views J